Sunday, May 16, 2010

The passage of time...

I was lucky enough to spend some time this Saturday with a bunch of good friends from my college years.  We all gathered together to celebrate the soon-to-be addition of another baby girl to our clan.

There's always someting kind of special about us all getting together and I can never truly describe it.  And often, I wonder if I'm the only one who really feels it.  Maybe I am, maybe I'm not.  (I do tend to be a bit mushy if you couldn't tell and am known as the one who ALWAYS has the camera ready). But really that isn't what's important.  Not at all.

To me, the effort of us all getting together here and there to celebrate each other's lives is, just, well, moving.  We're all busy, we all live in different places, and we all have our own lives.  But I know without a doubt if there's anything I need, those friends would be there in a heartbeat.  And I think that's pretty special.

But, what struck me as funny was that the the mention of my pug, Roxy, and her age is what somehow made us all pause and reflect a bit on how long it had been.  We were all chit-chatting as usual when someone asked (I can't even remember why) how old she was...which made me really have to think about when I'd gotten her.  I'd estimate it was 2000 or 2001 and she's around 10 years old now.  I bought her when my girlfriend, Liz, and I lived together after college, back before any of us were married, had children, or moved away.

Here we were, many of our own kids running around us, as we celebrated the newest pregnancy and caught up on everyone's lives, so much having changed, and all of us barely even noticed.  The kids being around or us growing up has come so naturally that you don't even blink an eye.  Your friends, who they are, those amazing things they do and have become, that remains the same.  We may grow older, but those around us who care about us are getting older too, and it's hard to notice.

But a random fact about an aging dog?  Somehow that put it into perspective, causing us all to stop for a moment, pause, and think about how long we'd all known each other.  And there weren't many words, no lingering statements that I remember, just a feeling.  And that feeling was friendship.

May you all have those friendships that make life special!

*hugs*
kristi

15 comments:

  1. I was discussing something similar with a friend from my bookclub. We celebrated our 6th anniversary this year. It doesn't seem that long ago that we had our first meeting, but we've been through 2 marriages, a baby, a miscsrriage, and a cancer scare. Time really does fly!

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  2. Last night I hung out with a friend of mine I've known for ten years. We were saying the same thing. It really is amazing how fast time goes by. And it's always nice to catch up with old friends.

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  3. I have a friend from hs and college. We went about 15 years without talking to each other, but then when we got together and ever since it's just like it's been a week...You may be to young to know this movie...The Big Chill is an awesome friends reunited movie (over a funeral).

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  4. yep, friend make life worth living... also family of course.

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  5. The beautiful thing about your friendship is that you KNOW it's wonderful, and don't take it for granted. Hope you enjoyed the time with friends.

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  6. Ive known my best friend for 14 years and even though we don't see each other or even talk as much as we used to, every time we do it is like no time passed at all. It's truly amazing to have friends like that.

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  7. Life would suck without friends like that!

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  8. I think what I really like about this is how you're all celebrating each other's different and varied lives. That's a beautiful thought, and such a tribute to your longlasting friendships.

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  9. I bet the others feel it, but you might be the only one who can articulate it well. Re: the pug, yes, Elsa, my eldest cat has been very ill lately, and long-time friends can't remember a time without Elsa around. It makes you stop, think, and be grateful.

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  10. Kristi, hi. Thanks so much for your visit to my blog and your lovely comment.
    Yes, good friends are priceless. I wouldn't be where I am or who I am today without the love and support of good friends.
    Karen

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  11. I've known my best friend...who lives in Atlanta...for thirty years! But when we get together we're like kids again. True friends are magical! :)

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  12. so true. good friends can make everything worthwhile :D

    a lovely post! thanks so much for sharing :D

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  13. Delightful post. Friends are awesome.

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  14. Thank you for the gift of friendship and for giving me pause to be thankful for friends.

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  15. It really is amazing how fast time goes by. And it's always nice to catch up with old friends.
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